Help! My child is a bully
It can be a real shock to learn that one’s own child is exhibiting bullying behaviors. It is hard to accept that after all our work at home, the child could mistreat other children right under our noses, but we must avoid overreaction and approach this situation calmly and rationally.
It is important to stay calm, to gather information from a variety of sources and assess the situation ourselves without simply snapping into a defensive or “damage-control” attitude. Stay calm, keep an open mind, and try to understand the situation from multiple points of view. Think of how the parents on the other side of the conflict would want to be treated, and most importantly, how your own child must feel. Be flexible and be willing to listen closely to your child’s viewpoint.
Don’t rush into a confrontation with your child, school authorities or other parents. Gather information, weigh your options, put together a plan. Approach the inevitable conversation calm, informed and ready.
2. Take deep breaths, and keep an open mind. As a responsible parent, you need to understand the situation from the point of view of everyone involved – especially from the point of view of your own child. Most bullying stems from insecurity or unhappiness.
3. Formulate some kind of plan before you open the subject with your child, if at all possible, yet remain flexible and willing to have an open conversation and to listen closely to your own child’s point of view before proceeding with anything.